Aristotle once said: “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
Communication has many forms of expression. When a couple moves in the same rhythm, in perfect harmony, no words are needed to perceive from the outside how things are with the two of them. We grasp the core of this relationship intuitively. This is probably one of the reasons why dance films are so popular and achieve cult status like “Saturday Night Fever”, “Dirty Dancing” and “Silver Linings”.
Dancing as recipe for a happy relationship
Dmitrii Bulanov, Olesya Shirokova and their 7 years old daughter Alina Bulanova, known as Crazy Dance Family on Instagram and TikTok, are professional dancers living in Moscow/Russia and over 20 years in the dancing business. Dmitrii and Olesya are married over 10 years and have made their hobby their profession. Over their social media platforms they show to over 1,4 million followers how important is dancing for the relationship. Because having fun together shows everything that defines relationships: dynamism, coordination, step in step, loosening and of course a lot of body contact!
Dancing is communication without words
It makes a big difference whether you go jogging together as a couple or rock the dance floor together, explains Crazy Dance Family. Dancing means not only taking the right steps, but also responding to one another and showing consideration without communicating with one another linguistically. You learn to understand each other blindly. And that while doing something for your own health. My back pain has been history since then. I feel relaxed and balanced, says Dmitrii.
When Olesya Shirokova looks at the other couples in their courses, most of whom have a few more years of relationship under their belt than we do, I still see it: the smile on the face of the two partners as they move into their own little world at the same time .
Dancing as a drive for the man
In many relationships the man does not want to take dance course with his wife/woman, knows Dmitrii Bulanov. But what many couples not know, is that dancing is a man’s business:
When dancing, the man has the power. No matter which dance, it determines where to go. Many a man thrives when he finally has the power to make decisions again and does not always have to bow to the will of his loved ones.
If he feels like it, he can turn the woman until she sees an asterisks. Many men’s will be happy if he can return the favour from you for small meanings … but even better: when he catches his lady at the end so that she does not stumble against the wall. It can be a very tender moment …
Every man is happy about admiration and appreciation. If he leads really well while dancing, not only will his dance partner feel comfortable – other couples will also watch you enviously while you dance.
Precisely these moments are balm for battered men’s souls who too often have to bow to the will of a boss during the day who does not appreciate their efforts.
Crazy Dance Family knows, that especially couples who have been together for a long time often get lost in habits. You work side by side without paying much attention to the other. This leads to the fact that one day you don’t even know how to approach the other. A dance course with its fixed choreographies helps. For a good waltz he has to touch her – and the dance teacher helps overcome uncertainty by showing exactly where the arms and hands should go. And once you have been there, it will be much easier for you to hike back home later. In this way they get back a loving togetherness piece by piece!
Compromises in relationship and dancing as therapy
Success makes you happy! Dmitrii and Olesya knows, that at the very beginning, you may find it difficult to do the dance steps together without constantly stepping on your feet. But with every step it gets easier and with every dance that is better, both partners become happier, because mastering such a challenge as a couple makes you really proud – and there is also a little happiness hormone intoxication – that’s something, or?!
How long has it been since you looked each other carefully in the eye? Loving, long eye contact leads to intimate moments and creates a bond between the people who are looking at each other. When you dance, you automatically look each other in the eye – and who knows, maybe you’ll fall in love with your partner all over again …?
Fall again in love with your partner
A couple who are starting to dance together have already a long story of different problem behind: power struggles for leadership, disappointment in unfulfilled expectations, blame etc. So the whole range of misunderstandings that we know from so many relationships. But now these two persons just dance and have fun together.
Those who dance are aware of what they are doing and what do they feel. He or she perceives the partner and his surroundings sensitively and with all of his senses, without losing sight of himself.
That could be a recipe for a happy relationship, so that the person you fell in love with is still your dream partner after years.